Thursday, April 27, 2017

What I Wish Everyone Knew About Being A Boy Mom

Five years ago, if someone would have told me I would be living in a house with all boys, I would have told them 'I hope not!' It is not that I never wanted a son. But, for the sake of being honest, I knew (or was na├»ve enough to think I knew) that I would be able to live without a son. A daughter, on the other hand, that is something I couldn't fathom living without. Who would be my lifelong best friend? Who would go with me on shopping trips while my husband went off to do boy things. That relationship I had with my mother was something that I knew I needed for myself.
Due to these feelings, I also constantly joked that I would end up being the one person in our families that ended up birthing all of the boys. And guess what, that is exactly what happened. I am rocking the boy mom status, and there is a very good chance that these two boys are the only children we will have. And the thing that I want everyone to know, is that I could not be luckier or more humbled than I am to have been blessed with sons.

I am as guilty as everyone else when it comes to the preconceived notions about boys and girls. Before having kids of my own, I also felt a bit of, dare I say, sympathy for people when they found out they would be having a boy. I mean, they just aren't as precious to dress up, and they couldn't possibly be as sweet and adorable as a little girl. And then I myself became a mom of not one, but two little boys. Suddenly I was on the receiving end of those comments and sad looks that I had in the past given to others. I felt so ashamed that I ever could have looked at a mother of boys and felt as if she were someone to be pitied, that she was missing out on something. That I felt sorry for her. I could not have been more wrong. I am constantly told I need to have another baby, because I would be such a good girl mom. I am told that I really need to experience one of each. But do you know what this all implies, regardless of the intention behind those words? That my boys aren't enough, when in fact, they are everything and more.
What I wish others (and myself) knew about being a mom of all boys is that you will never be short on love. I am the number one girl to not only my husband, but to two precious little boys who adore me. I get to see them be rough and tough, covered in mud and sweat, but then soak in their sweetness as I snuggle my youngest and watch him drift off to sleep, or when I lay in bed with my toddler and listen to him talk and giggle, amazed at the new things he is constantly learning. I get to experience so many new things that, as a self proclaimed girly-girl, I grew up avoiding. I am a better person because of the job I have been given in raising these boys. I burst with excitement when I see a tractor or a train, because I know I will point it out to my babies and they will be over the moon. We sing silly songs. We have dance parties. We do all of the things I dreamed of doing with daughters, yet it is just as sweet with my boys. In fact, I think it is special on such a deep level because, as their mama, I see such a gentle and precious side of them that is not so obvious in boys, that even when they are grown, I have a feeling will still be there.
I have the honor and privilege of shaping my boys into men. Men that will treat others with kindness and respect, that will hopefully be amazing husbands and fathers themselves. The love I feel when looking at them is something that cannot be explained or comprehended.
Do not pity us boy moms. I would never close the door on a daughter. But what having boys has taught me is that each and every child is their own person, and at the end of the day, a person is a person. They have their own little soul, their own thoughts and feelings, and my heart beats for each of my boys every single day. Looking back, I was so uncertain of how I could ever live without a daughter, and yet I never considered that I couldn't live without the exact children that I have. Having boys is the greatest blessing I have received that I never knew I needed. Moms of boys have a hidden understanding with one another, because we know that while people think we may be missing out on something, we know that that belief could not be anymore untrue. Being a parent is an honor and a gift, and some of us just so happen to end up with boys. Those messy little boys who tear apart my living room and track mud through the carpet? Yeah, I think I'll keep them.


Linking up with Annie today.

9 comments:

  1. Yes, yes and yes!! I could have written this post. Agree 100% on everything! Including knowing I would end up with all boys.. both my sisters have girls. Love my silly boys so much!!

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  2. Yes, yes, yes!!! So true. I love my precious boys and can't imagine life without them!

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  3. So sweet, Mackensey! Little boys sure do love their mommas! You will always be the queen of the household!

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  4. So very sweet. You have an amazing life with your boys. They are so adorable and seem like the sweetest.

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  5. Great post! I wish people would be more understanding that boys are humans with emotions and shouldn't have to constantly be throwing a football. If a little girl was crying because she was scared to try something, most people would love on her and not push her, but if a boy did that, people would push him and tell him to man up. If Trip had his way, I would've given him an older brother! Your boys will have a special bond with you and with each other that rivals that of a brother and sister.

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  6. I totally love this post and can definitely relate. Being a boy mom is one of the greatest blessings I could imagine! Although - if we get a daughter one day, that would be pretty great too!

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  7. Loved reading your post today! I'm not a mom yet, but can't wait to have kids one day. When I was little I once told my mom that if I had a boy I would give him away. How sad is that? Haha! Glad I don't feel that way anymore!

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  8. So sweet! I'm a boy mama, too and really love it! In the back of my mind, I think that a girl would also be fun one day, but for now, I just love loving on my boy. (And I love that he loves so hard back!)

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  9. As a mother of two girls, I'm thankful to read a post on this topic that doesn't make us girl mamas feel like we are missing out on something by not having boys! God gives us the exact children He always planned for us to have...and THAT is exactly what we need. :) Enjoyed reading this post!

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